What Happened When I Stopped Ironing

I was beginning to take stock of how my life had been all about Giving to everyone else.  Maybe this will resonate for you too?

When I moved in with my partner, I inherited lots of new "tasks" I hadn't even considered.  The bane of my life in 1996-7 was the requirement of MANY pristine, police officer, (man-size) shirts to wash, dry and iron (throwing eyes skyward whilst pretending to be a happy, good, hardworking 'wife' even though I'd not long moved in... I learned a hell of a lot from this experience I can tell you!)

Oh! Did I mention all the school uniform shirts/trousers/skirts too?  Not only had I gained a new Partner, but I gained a child too.  Hmmm.... good job I was having counselling!  In all honesty, I didn't think like that back then... I was only in my 20's and knew very little about anything much and everything I have learned has been ploughed into Goddess Unleashed.

But let's get back to the Ironing!  A lot of ironing and quite frankly I was getting pretty sick of it.  I can't believe how I just 'got on with the job'!?  My conditioning had totally brainwashed me!!!

Nowadays, this BIG Red Flag would be slapping me wide awake... but back then I was an oblivious People Pleaser who Gave above and beyond to just about anyone and everyone.  (My life was definitely in need of Big Change.  If only Goddess Unleashed had been around for me back then!)

So, I have this theory... you may think I'm paranoid.  I've been told (gaslighted) that I am paranoid many times, over many decades (mostly by men but not all).  My theory? That 'man & god' ie: Patriarchy, created all these 'tasks' for woman to complete daily to totally exhaust her from dawn till dusk:

looking and smelling great
immaculate hair
having and raising children
dusting/hoovering/cleaning the home
walking the dogs (there were two)
taking the kids to and from school
be a great mother
socialise at the schoolgates but never go out on a school night (or any night preferably - just remain totally available 24/7, 365 days a year, dedicated to partner, kids, home, pets
be a wonderful wife/partner
shop/cook/cleane,
iron neatly (so they can throw them on a chair, dirty and crumple everything to be repeated endlessly until I die)
remember birthdays

stay in shape and look forever young
smile whilst grilling burgers in time for match of the day 10 pm Saturday night when he's on backshift
etc, etc.

You get the gist of it? Of course you do... because I imagine you've been here yourself?

Imagine for a moment... if you saw a job advertised with all of that lot on the Job Spec... the majority of it listed on the Essentials List and over on the Desirable side it would say: Clean Driving Licence, have stamina and resilience to keep going from dawn to dusk without a frown or frustrated word uttered...even when vomited all over the newly ironed uniform ...would you apply for this job?

Oh and of course... there is no Pay, nor Pension Plan or Sick Pay ...If you're sick you will still force yourself out of bed to keep going regardless because your Conditioning modelled this to you as you were growing up by your mother-figure, grandmother figure and all other aunties and woman authority figures in your world back then, in films.. within subliminal advertising... it was Everywhere!

Truthfully... did you grow up believing your life would turn out to be the treadmill that it is? Nope. Me neither!

I had wonderful, wild ideas of being a writer and artist living in San Francisco! I would travel the world, writing everywhere I went.

A 'man' did not feature in my life ahead.  I just did not have any desire to be in a relationship whatsoever unless it was a horse or a dog.

Nor was having a house to clean or kids to birth, raise and protect (for the remainder of my life).  Be honest... were they on your list?

I believe we are completely conditioned and brainwashed into this shit.  And be honest... did you do this to your children?  Me too... it's all we know until we learn something different such as Goddess Unleashed!

I'm VERY interested in what Was on YOUR List back then?  I want to hear!  I mean this by the way - this is something you might need to know about me... I am genuinely interested in others.  It is a massive part of what I do in all aspects of my work.

I really care a Lot and want to encourage all Woman out of the Tight Spot they find themselves in and help ease them into something comfier and more congruent to who they truly are. (and you may not know what this is yet having been conditioned to the hilt in childhood to be what you have become - don't worry this is completely reversible).

I REALLY want to hear what lit you up.  What made you smile and squeal with excitement?  What made you leap out of bed and brush your teeth?  What did you Love at school - home time perhaps?  What did you want to become?  By the way, I don't mean a nurse or teacher or whatever the school career counsellor 'advised'... I mean WHAT Did YOU Want To Do with Your Life???  REALLY asking, really truly mean it! and it may be that you wanted to be a teacher or nurse and if that is what you Really Wanted then I am completely happy for you... and I want to know what you Really wanted to do - write a list... there are usually a number of things, not just one.

Oh yes… so back to my ironing story!

There I was as my counselling experience began to kick in and I got a taste of excitement and hope that my daily grind didn't have to be as was, but could be something MORE and Very Different!  I still wanted to Write, to make Art, Travel, Learn everything, to start a new Business... I wanted to do everything!!! I mean, don't you?

So the day I came back from my counselling session and made my happy Announcement that I was hanging up the Iron for good. I felt amazing!

My news went down extremely badly however.  I was so happy and felt released - how could they be so mad at me?  Oh yes... who would do the ironing?  Not them, that was for sure?

Don't forget, back then, I was a People Pleaser.  I didn't like conflict.  I'd been conditioned to the hilt.  So I hired a Woman who loved ironing (that's what the advert said) to do all the ironing for me (please note the use of 'me'... I took ownership of all the ironing!

I also paid her to do all of the ironing.  At that point I didn't have an issue with this since I believed it was 'my' ironing therefore I 'should' pay for this.  I didn't have any ironing myself, because I was adept at drying my clothes flat and meticulously so I didn't have to iron my clothes.

This interim stage of paying another woman to iron For Me went on for a while.  Initially I felt ok about it, then I began to have inner rumblings.  Why should another woman have to iron for me!?  So I taught my partner how to iron his own shirts... which brought about Anarchy.  I mean we were at war...

I was hellbent that I would NOT iron and he was hellbent that I would.

For a while this was much louder and scarier than Patriarchy, which tends to be a silent yet insidious affair, rich in coercion and psychological, unspoken manipulation... but given my childhood experiences (may share more another time), I'd experienced plenty of angry, bawling men at secondary school and at home, determined to get what they wanted... so I simply stood my ground whilst vibrating silently inside my body from past trauma.

I rarely if ever iron to this day.  I started my business... Eventually over decades, the rupture from back then (there have been many more since) healed somewhat as I became more and more Myself with my own ideas, wants, needs, desires and dreams whilst experiencing Not Giving A F*ck, to be easier and easier.

I appreciate these moments of Change are not easy. Very few people like 'change'.  (It usually means having to Do something different!)

People Take To The Mattresses (fight using ruthless tactics) under these circumstances.  They dig their heels in and are determined to Win... but they underestimated my own determination To Have A Life.

I wonder how you are doing? How do you feel? What are you thinking?

Do you notice yourself shrinking and wanting to hide?

Maybe you feel ready to step up and make a stand and take ownership of your own life?

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